In this episode, we are dig into Emotional Labor, a major issue that impacts our relationships at home and work in deep, unexpected ways. This is a complex topic, often weighed down by years of bad habits, gender equality issues, and uninvestigated family of origin issues. The only way through is to talk it out, so we get the conversation going with many tears and lots of kindness.
The Video that Shows the Problem
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- “…we came to see that, despite our best intentions to be equal partners, we had no role models. The minute we got home with our brand new baby, it was like these unconscious, old 1950s-era black and white movies started playing in both our heads – that the Ideal Father goes off to work and provides, and the Ideal Mother is always available for her kids and keeps the house neat and tidy. Those old movies, time diary data shows, are still playing all over the world.” from Brigid Schulte’s “Why Time is a Feminist Issue.”
- It’s 2016. Time to Get Real About How We Work and Live by Brigid Schulte
- The original article called “Where’s My Cut?: On Unpaid Emotional Labor.”
- Emotional Labor (Wikipedia)
- Metafilter thread on Unpaid Emotional Labor, and the most excellent Unpaid Emotional Labor checklist (if you don’t read anything else, read this one and follow instructions!)
- “At work as at home, men reap the benefit of women’s ‘emotional labor.’” by Soraya Chemaly, Director, Women’s Media Center
- ‘Women are just better at this stuff’: is emotional labor feminism’s next frontier? by Rose Hackman